Mindfulness and Resilience

  This mindfulness thing is everywhere and sometimes in danger of becoming ‘McMindfulness’ because of the inevitable Americanization of these things. In my estimation you can’t have resilience without some level of mindfulness. Jon Kabat Zinn, who brought formalized mindfulness techniques to the masses in the Western Hemisphere, defines it as “paying attention in a… Read more »

Resilience and Trauma

Trauma is a popular yet misunderstood phenomenon. Many  more people than we know have experienced or will experience it in their lifetimes, but may not recognize it. How we respond to trauma has huge implications for the possibility of tapping into and managing our own resilient qualities. There is certainly a spectrum of severity to… Read more »

Trauma, Relationships and Resilience

Trauma in relationships are experienced by many.  Trauma can have an impact on how we behave in a relationship and can also contribute to relationship anxiety. We all have experiences and habits that we bring to romance. If we don’t pay attention to them, they can wreak havoc on our partnerships. When these things include… Read more »

Paying Attention to Your Partner

By Myriam Mayshark Paying attention to your partner is one of the most powerful things you can do to support your relationship, according to the best research by one of the leading authorities.  John, Gottman, Phd.  has done more than 25 years of research on the topic of having a healthy relationship. He asserts that one… Read more »

Resiliency: Partner Alertness Course

By Jim McElrath Pay attention to your partner. There is a line in a Nick Cave song, Mermaids that mentions ‘Husband Alertness Course’.  Cave is recommending that the character in the song take the course. To be fair to my fellow men, perhaps it should be called “Partner Alertness Course” Maybe we should all be mandated to take… Read more »

How Your Background Can Affect Building Better Relationships

In another blog article, Jim discussed how trauma can affect relationships.  But even if the trauma is mild, we can sometimes carry those feelings and it may affect how we try to how to maintain a healthy relationship. Sometimes understanding the root of the feelings can be the first step to helping us. Below is… Read more »

Healthy Relationships

Healthy relationships don’t just happen. Relationship building depends on so many factors that help or hinder how things go between you and your honey. Almost all of us have been in unsuccessful relationships multiple times.  Research tells us that about 85% of romantic connections fail. 85 % is a huge number. However, as a culture,… Read more »

Find a Therapist You Like AND That ‘Gets You’

People seek out professional therapy usually when they have experienced adversity such as a break-up or are suffering from anxiety, depression other stressful issues. Finding a therapist that you like, but also one that  “gets you” is often very challenging. Here are some things to consider when you begin your search: Strategies for Finding a… Read more »